Of all the actual idol dating scandals, haven't the majority been with non-idol men? I think the issue here is we're seeing these idols as something desirable while for male idols they're often just co-workers that bring much more headaches dating (shitting where you eat) than dating someone actually famous or rich or desirable like actresses, models, news presenters (not sure if thats a thing in Korea like in Japan, but female news presenters are super high up on the social hierachy in terms of desirability). So why would BTS be banging random idols instead of the actual top tier of Korean women? You can add Wonyoung or Jennie in there if you want, but surely there are actual actresses or models that they much prefer. That's just what I think.