I (20f) have been dating my bf (37m) since around last August. We’ve been in the same online friends group for a while and last year started dating, we’ve met up a few times already and he is visiting again soon. Last week it was my friend’s birthday and we went to spoons (uk pub, cheap drinks and food) and then some club after, nothing really crazy it was a small group of us girls and it wasn’t a late night. For context none of my friends are heavy drinkers, I’ve drank before but only been drunk maybe a handful of times. My bf knows I’m not too fussed about drinking and he’s said before he likes that I don’t like drinking. Although I never said I don’t like it, I just don’t really drink or get drunk often. I told my bf I’d be going out for my friend’s birthday a few days before and when I told him we’d be going to the pub and maybe a club after he kinda got upset and wanted me to promise I wouldn’t drink. This kinda threw me off since he drinks with his friends most weekends, or when we’re on call I’ll usually hear him opening a can of something. And also the legal age here for drinking is 18. I said it wouldn’t be like a big night out, it was just going to be a few drinks but he really wasn’t happy about me wanting to drink and said that if I lived with him I wouldn’t even be allowed to legally drink yet, which I thought was a stupid argument since I’m in the UK, not America. I asked him why he didn’t want me to drink, if it was a trust thing, even though I’ve never given him a reason to not trust me, and he said it wasn’t anything to do with that but he just wanted my first big night out to be with him when he visits again, which again made no sense to me since I HAVE drank before (mainly before we were together). I don’t know if he thought it was going to be some big, crazy night out where we were all going to get really drunk but it wasn’t and I explained that to him and he still kept going back and forth how he didn’t like the idea of me drinking heavily when I wasn’t even 21 yet. Eventually I just promised to him that I wouldn’t drink and would probably go home early and call him after. I did end up having a few drinks, but I didn’t get that drunk. I even ended the night early as my friends went to another club after the first one. The next day my bf asked me if I had drank and I didn’t want to lie to him but I also had already promised him I wouldn’t drink so I told him I only had two and he got pissed. He said I was a liar and selfish for promising something that was important to him and that he’s debating whether he should even come visit anymore. I do feel bad for promising I wouldn’t drink and then drinking anyways but to me it just felt like such a stupid thing to make such a big deal over. He’s been really dry over text the past few days and I don’t know what I’m supposed to do.