I'm not sure why this is such a huge mystery. She used to sell videos of her swinging adventures, she ended up doxxed and with a stalker, now she keeps her public persona to fairly mild content and does her swinging in private, probably with a fairly small group of trusted friends.
She still gets some of her exhibitionist thrills with her "cosplay", but reserves the real thrills for swingers' clubs, and she greatly lessens the dangers of stalkers and whatever. Swinging is ALL about safety and consent, and anybody in the lifestyle who made her (or anyone) feel unsafe would be kicked out immediately, so she's safe to do whatever gets her (and her husband) off, within the bounds of the community.