I really doubt hes the controlling part in this relationship. If so I would've doubted he let her travel alone(?) to the US to have sex with others.
Most likely its a deal they agreed on in their relationship to not kiss others, or she dont want to kiss anyone other than her BF. Shes not the only swinger/hotwife that dont kiss other men (though lots of them start kissing anyone after a few years time).
If she didnt like or agree with the limitation of the relationship she could just leave. Shes should be making enough money to sustain herself and not need others to afford housing.
So its not unlikely that shes "just larping" as you said earlier. Or maybe shes not found another performer she actually wibe with. It takes two to tango, and perhaps the norwegian culture makes that stuff weird? And none of the male performers shes been with have actually tried to open her up, and instead just focused on completing the video as fast as possible.
The big question is if her video will change if she becomes single, or if thats the type of videos we'll always get from her. Perhaps doing more of a full "weekend date", that a few of the hotwives does, will help her change the video mood?
We'll see if her videos with abbiesykes is any different. Perhaps getting a female to push her a bit will help her open more, or if shes just stuck.