apologies for the rambling nature of the post, turned out to be longer than I thought but also veered off topic. Most relevant for our/your purposes is the first paragraph.
i dont think it's her who is being humiliated lol, but again, it's the lack of respect (or at least based on what is shown to the camera) which never sits well. There is a way to go about this whole thing where one can be humiliated/humiliating, yet equally loving and respectful. How this looks will ofc vary from couple to couple. For me personally, while I have never done anything like this, I definitely lean more towards the hotwifing vs cuckold - and if it's the latter then it is still quite gentle in the grand scheme of things (plus im often envisioning myself as the bull). I find the idea sharing my gf-cum-fiancee w/ someone to be arousing, particularly if that person is more well-endowed than I. Equally, I know that often sex w/ me can be painful for her so I would not at all want her to just go and get stuck in w/ someone hung like a horse lol, and frankly nor would she. ig the point i am trying to make is that her arousal and getting off is very very arousing to me and gets me off, not her humiliating and belittling me. Rather, I would not find the humiliation in this context to be arousing or anything. That said, I love me some dommy mommy lol and that is much more gentle. Ultimately everyone is different, and for all we know her and her husband could have a very good relationship off camera. Equally if that were true then I think their conduct on-camera would reflect that, at least in a minor way.
I think mainstream pornography and the 'cuck' content that has come out of it has lead to a fundamentally warped view of what this all is too. [diversion begins here] While it has thankfully changed (somewhat), it still often relies on old, outdated, and outright offensive depictions of non-white performers; particularly those who are black. Basically it just turns into this like weird sexual minstrel show. Maybe one of the reasons I can't help to think about this aspect is due to my own being mixed, which I would not change for a second, and while I do not look outwardly mixed I have had many negative experiences due to this fact. Many not sexual, but also a surprising amount of these too.
The fixation on race and the preference for well-endowed black men is just as pronounced, probably moreso, amongst those who partake in hotwifing/cuckolding. Perhaps this is due to my having a history degree (not trying to use that as some sort of flex to be clear - I think this does play a part in my thoughts/views on this) and my likely being on the spectrum, but SO much of the language used by those who create hotwife/cuck content is fundamentally rooted in slavery. The term 'bull' is, from my perspective, quite...problematic. Historically the term was applied to enslaved men, overwhelmingly black, who due to their physical characteristics were chosen to be used explicitly for the purposes of breeding - to create more people to be enslaved. Likewise the term 'stud,' different word but effectively the same meaning. The one difference is, at least to me, it is more of a 'neutral' term whereas 'bull' is more racialized. Not helping this is that the female creators in this genre are overwhelmingly white. Likewise, I would wager to guess, are their husbands (but often they are behind the camera). There is a dissonance between having sex w/ someone outside ones race whilst, like, not wanting to be in an interracial relationship. The psychology of sexual behavior is quite interesting to me, and have done a bit of reading about the intersection of language, race, and hotwifing/cuckolding. Personal accounts are overwhelmingly from the hotwife/cuckoldresses or her husband/cuck's perspective. There are, ofc, accounts from the perspective of the 'bull' too. But all of them are quite surface level imo, seldom do any of them take time to deeply reflect and think about the 'why,' 'what,' and/or 'how.' Why its arousing, why they partake, why they might have a preference for someone not of their race etc. What are the connotations of this particular behaviour I/we are partaking in? Is it problematic, harmful, and potentially reinforcing negative tropes and stereotypes? If so, how?
I could write a lot more on this but I will spare you all, unless it is wanted ig.