Well, seeing that there is no response to my attempts of outreach, using empathy, sympathy, or camaraderie, from having been in the same problem. Probably because my guts, hare begin hated to the maximum possible extend.
I'm going to give a blunt analogy: there's this car going thru a road, a very shitty road that I recognize. For which I'm pointing out a voluntary detour, the detour it's not without it's challenges or pain, but at the end of that comes stability and the lost of some burdens. And when I was pointed out to the detour, I didn't considered optional, I saw it as necessary.
However, if the detour is not taken, you will see that some one is catching up, and no matter how fast you speed up, it keeps getting closer, because life will not stop for you. And then whatever options you may think you have, will no longer be be available, or they will be chosen for you. Because the driver of this car is a fully able adult, in all it's capacities, that choose to ignore the detour.
But alas, I have my own problems to deal with, and my bandwidth is limited. So I will return to my pre September 25 estate, and just unfollow her socials, and unwach this discussion. But that doesn't mean the door is closed, the door is just ajar, because help will always be available.
P.S. Sorry for the long ass post.