What you have just described, sir, is Borderline Personality Disorder. It’s one of the worse ones to draw. It’s notorious with women who wind up doing sex work or content creation. They can't hold regular jobs because of they are such a mess to deal with. Super miserable people. You’ll want to steer clear if you ever run into it. Think manic depression with extreme volatility. Goes 0–100 mph in 2 seconds flat. A lot of the misery comes from the fact that they have a horrible sense of self. It’s constantly changing based on who their partner is. They don’t fall in love like most people. They’ll plunge into an unhealthy obsession where they idealize whoever it is and decide two days later that this is the person they’re going to spend their life with. Then every minute of every day is spent thinking about them. It will get so bad that suddenly the person they’re obsessed with DEFINES their sense of self. “I didn’t know who I was until I met this guy! Finally I’ve found myself!! The REAL ME!”
And they start liking everything he likes. They start hating anything he hates. It will go on like that for a while until it can’t be ignored that the other person is human too with their own flaws, and the whole delusion comes crashing down. Violently. Because, now EVERYTHING needs to be reframed. “He’s awful! He’s just the worst person ever!! Really, he’s everything that’s gone wrong with my life and I can’t believe I ever let myself be duped and ABUSED like this for so long!!!”
I want to remind you that what sets them off will be something super tiny, like leaving the cupboard open. “You didn’t compliment me this morning.” And now it’s “I don’t even know who I am anymore! I need to find the real me!! I LET HIM TOUCH ME!!!” And her anti-porn crusade begins and she can’t even touch herself for 7 years; because it reminds her of HIM!! And then she finally meets a new guy and… “He’s just so perfect! Says I’m sexually repressing myself and I should explore more!” And OnlyFans…until that first crack shows up. If you watched her content you'll know just when that happened lol. She wont be back.
That's just my read of "The Saga of Heather and her fight with 'The Beast.'" Its a lot worse if your smart enough to leave her crazy ass first. See Johnny Depp and Amber Heard