All in all, I think the guy doesn't prefer that she be more interactive because in her solo stuff, she does far more positions, etc. For example, she clearly loves riding.
And why would any man not want such? As far as I can tell, between the videos and Lives, he doesn't have much lasting power and if she railed him like she wanted to, he'd pop in less than a minute and her videos are already on the shorter side most of the time.